As a “twice-exceptional” adult with ADHD and giftedness, I find myself constantly having to defend my actions, mannerisms, and quirks. WE ARE NOT ALL THE SAME, PEOPLE! Even “normal” people can be classified into two types; the introvert and the extrovert.
Look below to determine your type and also where your loved ones fit in. Understanding where your/their behavior and actions stem from, can allow you to change your reactions. Most people will see themselves in both categories, but the easiest way to figure out your type is to ask yourself if you are energized or drained when around other people. If you or someone you know is an introvert, keep in mind that introverts need a little extra care and understanding. -Stacey
Extroverts
Get energy from interaction
Feel energized by people
Have a single-layered personality (same in public and private)
Are open and trusting
Think out loud
Like being the center of attention
Learn by doing
Are comfortable in new situations
Make lots of friends easily
Are distractible
Are impulsive
Are risk-takers
Introverts
Get energy from inside themselves
Feel drained by people
Have a persona and an inner-self
Need privacy
Mentally rehearse before speaking
Hate being the center of attention
Learn by observing
Are comfortable with changes
Are loyal to a few close friends
Are capable of intense concentration
Are reflective
Fear humiliation; quiet in large groups
How to care for introverts
Respect their need for privacy
Let them observe first in new situations
Don’t interrupt them
Give them 15 minute warnings of changes
Teach them new skills in private
Do not push them to make lots of friends
Never embarrass them in public
Give them time to think. Don’t demand answers.
Give them advanced notice of changes in their lives
Reprimand them privately
Enable them to find one best friend
Respect their introversion. Don’t try to remake them into extroverts.
Source – Counseling the Gifted & Talented, 1993, pg. 69, Love Publishing, Linda Silverman